First, if a man be thus to love his wife, then the wife is no less to love her husband. For *Love, we say, is Loves load-stone: and there is the like reason for either. There is no action or affection so reciprocal as love; as between God and man; so between man and man. For example. If God be angry with us, *we are not to be angry with him again: *he may have just cause to be angry with us, we can have no just cause to be angry with him: If God hate us, yet we ought not to hate him: he may justly hate us, we cannot justly ⟨p. 34⟩hate him: if he show mercy on us, we cannot show mercy to him: we stand in need of his mercy, he hath no need of our mercy, for he is subject to no misery: If he be good to us, we can not be good again to him; for all aour goodness is nothing to him: But God loveth us, and we are to love him again: we stand bound to love him though he hate us: but are bound in a double bond to love him, when he loveth us: In like manner here: if the husband be angry with the wife, she is not by and by to be hasty and angry again with him: if he control her, she is not therefore to control him: but he is to love her, and she is likewise to love him: yea though he should hate her, yet ought she to love him: (for she may not fail in her duty, because he faileth in his,) how much more when he loveth her is she to love him? For clove requireth love: and *love must requite l•ue. Yea therefore is she to love him, bthe rather to draw love from him. That which the Apostle also dsometime expresseth, though for the most part he presumeth it;* as the love of parents to their children, a thing grounded in nature, as is also the other: in regard whereof the Apostle Paul hath ecoupled them together. Now as things often inculcated should make us more careful: so things taken for granted should make us more fearful. As the husband therefore must f see to it that he love his wife, because he is so oft called upon for it: so the wife must take heed how she be faulty and defective that way, when God taketh it as granted; and therefore ⟨p. 35⟩accounteth them as monsters in nature that are wanting in it; as those that want bowels of love toward their own birth.
First, if a man be thus to loue his wife, then the wife is no lesse to loue her husband. For *Loue, we say, is Loues loade-stone: and there is the like reason for either. There is no action or affection so reciprocall as loue; as betweene God and man; so betweene man and man. For example. If God be angry with vs, *we are not to bee angry with him againe: *hee may haue iust cause to be angry with vs, wee can haue no iust cause to bee angry with him: If God hate vs, yet wee ought not to hate him: he may iustly hate vs, we cannot iustly ⟨p. 34⟩hate him: if he shew mercy on vs, we cannot shew mercy to him: we stand in neede of his mercy, he hath no neede of our mercy, for he is subiect to no misery: If he be good to vs, we can not be good againe to him; for all aour goodnesse is nothing to him: But God loueth vs, and we are to loue him againe: we stand bound to loue him though hee hate vs: but are bound in a double bond to loue him, when he loueth vs: In like manner here: if the husband be angry with the wife, shee is not by and by to be hastie and angry againe with him: if hee controle her, shee is not therefore to controle him: but he is to loue her, and shee is likewise to loue him: yea though he should hate her, yet ought she to loue him: (for she may not faile in her duty, because he faileth in his,) how much more when he loueth her is shee to loue him? For cloue requireth loue: and *loue must requite l•ue. Yea therefore is shee to loue him, bthe rather to drawe loue from him. That which the Apostle also dsometime expresseth, though for the most part he presumeth it;* as the loue of parents to their children, a thing grounded in nature, as is also the other: in regard whereof the Apostle Paul hath
- *•ide Be•n, in Cant, 83.
- *Que effendant mulia sunt in •amtue, nihil •• Deo. August.
- *Confidat amari; qu• see sentu amare: et qui amari se senti•, non redamare confuna•tur. •er. de dilig. Deo.Confidat amari; qu• se sentu amare: et qui amari se senti•, non redamare confuna•tur. •er. de dilig. Deo.
- aPsal. 16 2. Job. 22.2. & 35. 6, 7, 8.Psal. 16 2. Iob. 22.2. & 35. 6, 7, 8.
- cProv. 18.24.
- *Deo nihil accres ••t, nihil decrescit. Greg. moral. Tibs, qui semper idem es, nihil accedit. si amando prosicimus ad •e, nihil deced•s, sinon amando desic•mus a te Guil••• The odor. de amore A Deo benefic•s […] poss•• mu•, Dro bens. praesa em yo simus. Agust in
