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A care-cloth
A care-cloth: or a treatise of the cumbers and troubles of marriage intended to advise them that may, to shun them; that may not, well and patiently to bear them. By William Whately, preacher of the word of God in Banbury, in Oxfordshire.A care-cloth: or a treatise of the cumbers and troubles of marriage intended to aduise them that may, to shun them; that may not, well and patiently to beare them. By William Whately, preacher of the word of God in Banbury, in Oxfordshire.
London: printed by Felix Kyngston for Thomas Man, 1624
Modern spelling is a reading aid: the words are the author’s, only the spelling is modernized. Original shows the page as printed, with the transcription marks.
First, in judging of points controverted, let a man place his mind in a flat indifferency, and make it merely neutral; for if a man shall bend his will and affections one way, desiring for some respect, to have this part rather true, then that in a matter questioned; this desire will carry him away, as the bias doth the bowl, many times against the truth. Unequal balances will do wrong in weighing, though the weights be equal.
First, in iudging of points controuerted, let a man place his mind in a flat indifferencie, and make it meerely neutrall; for if a man shall bend his wil and affections one way, desiring for some respect, to haue this part rather true, then that in a matter questioned; this desire will carry him away, as the bias doth the bowle, many times against the truth. Vnequall ballances will doe wrong in weighing, though the weights bee equall.
Secondly, when the mind is brought to this perfect neutrality, pass not sentence hastily, but upon serious deliberation, taking advice (if by any means occasion serve) whether by reading or conference, as well, as much, as often, with those that hold on the one side, as on the other. He that speaketh first, is commonly righteous, but his neighbour cometh after, and findeth him out: He shall never be an indifferent Judge betwixt party and party, that is loth to hear the allegations of the one side, and willing to hear all that can be alleged on the other; neither shall he ever discern aright betwixt opinion and opinion, that is glad to be acquainted with any reasons that may make for the one opinion, but if discontented (at least not very well ⟨p. 12⟩pleased) if he hear that contradicted, and the contrary maintained.
Secondly, when the mind is brought to this perfect neutralitie, passe not sentence hastily, but vpon serious deliberation, taking aduice (if by any meanes occasion serue) whether by reading or cōference, as wel, as much, as often, with those that hold on the one side, as on the other. He that speaketh first, is commonly righteous, but his neighbour commeth after, and findeth him out: He shall neuer be an indifferent Iudge betwixt party and party, that is loth to heare the allegations of the one side, and willing to heare all that can be alleaged on the other; neither shall he euer discerne aright betwixt opinion and opinion, that is glad to bee acquainted with any reasons that may make for the one opinion, but if discontented (at least not very well