A practical exposition of the Lord's-Prayer

1. In forbearing one another, and with-holding our selves from Revenge. This is a thing that is distant from forgiving, and accordingly we shall find it so propounded by the Apostle, Col. 3. 13. Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any Man have a Quarrel against any; even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye. Mark, there's first forbearing, and then forgiving. What is forbearing? a ceasing from Acts of Revenge, which tho they be sweet to Nature, yet they are contrary to Grace. Some Men will say, we will do to him, as he hath done to us. Prov. 24. 29. Say not, I will do so to him, as he hath done to me; I will render to the Man according to his Work. Corrupt Nature thirsteth for Revenge, and hath a strong Inclination this way; but Grace should give check to it: Say not, &c. Men think it's a base thing, and argueth a low pusillanimous Spirit, to put up Wrongs and Injuries; O it argueth a stupid Baseness. But this is that ⟨p. 378⟩which giveth a Man a Victory over himself; nay, it gives a Man the truest Victory over his Enemy, when he forbears to revenge. It gives a Man a Victory over himself, which is better than the most noble Actions amongst the Sons of Men. Prov. 16. 32. He that overcometh his own Spirit, is more than he that taketh a City. There is a Spirit in us, that is boisterous, turbulent, and revengeful, apt to retaliate, and return Injury for Injury; now when we can bridle this, this is an overcoming of our own Spirits. But that's the true weakness of Spirit, when a Man is easily overcome by his own Passion: And then hath our Enemy a true Victory over us, when his Injuries overcome us so far, as we can break God's Laws to be quit with him. Therefore the Apostle saith, Rom. 12. 21. Be not overcome of Evil, but overcome Evil with Good. Then is Grace victorious, and then hath a Man a noble and brave Spirit, not when he is overcome by Evil, (for that argueth Weakness) but when he can overcome Evil. And it is God's way to shame the Party that did the wrong, and to overcome him too; it is the best way to get the Victory over him. When David had Saul at an advantage in the Cave, and cut off the Lap of his Garment, and did forbear any Act of Revenge against him, Saul was melted, and said to David, Thou art more righteous than I.