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The well-ordered family
The well-ordered family: wherein the duties of it's [sic] various members are described and urged. A small, but very comprehensive piece, suitable to be in the hand of every householder [sic]; and may be especially seasonable in the present day. / By that eminently pious and learned divine, Mr. Isaac Ambrose, Minister of the Gospel at Preston. ; [Two lines from John]The well-ordered family: wherein the duties of it's [sic] various members are described and urged. A small, but very comprehensive piece, suitable to be in the hand of every housholder [sic]; and may be especially seasonable in the present day. / By that eminently pious and learned divine, Mr. Isaac Ambrose, Minister of the Gospel at Preston. ; [Two lines from John]
Boston: printed by S. Kneeland, 1762
The Well-Ordered Family. › Section 5: Of the Duties of the Husband and Wife.
Modern spelling is a reading aid: the words are the author’s, only the spelling is modernized. Original shows the page as printed, with the transcription marks.
For the former, 1. The Matter of it is a dear Love, a special Love, and a more special then that common mutual Love to one another: No question the Wife is to love her Husband, and a Brother to love his Brother, and a Friend to love his Friend; but more especially, or with a more special Love, is the Husband to love his Wife. To this Purpose she is called, The ⟨p. 17⟩Wife of his Bosom; to show, that she ought to be as his Heart in his Bosom. He must love her at all Times, he must love her in all Things: Love must season and sweeten his Speech, Carriage, and Actions towards her: Love must show it self in his Commands, Reproofs, Admonitions, Instructions, Authority, Familiarity with her, the Rise of which Love must not be from her Beauty, Nobility, or because she contents and pleaseth her Husband; but especially because she is his Sister in the Profession of Christian Religion, and an Inheritor with him of the Kingdom of Heaven: because of her Graces, and Virtues, as Modesty, Chastity, Diligence, Patience, Temperance, Faithfulness, Secrecy, Obedience, &c. because she bears and brings him forth Children, the Heirs of his Name and Substance, and the Upholder of his Family; and because of the Union and Conjunction of Marriage. Love growing on Beauty, Riches, Lust, or any other slight Grounds, is but a Blaze, and soon vanisheth, but if grounded on these Considerations, and especially on this Union of Marriage, it is lasting and true: The want hereof is the Fountain of Strife, Quarrelling, Debate; which converts the Paradise of Marriage, into an Hell.
For the former, 1. The Matter of it is a dear Love, a special Love, and a more special then that common mutual Love to one another: No question the Wife is to love her Husband, and a Brother to love his Brother, and a Friend to love his Friend; but more especially, or with a more special Love, is the Husband to love his Wife. To this Purpose she is called, The ⟨p. 17⟩Wife of his Bosom; to shew, that she ought to be as his Heart in his Bosom. He must love her at all Times, he must love her in all Things: Love must season and sweeten his Speech, Carriage, and Actions towards her: Love must shew it self in his Commands, Reproofs, Admonitions, Instructions, Authority, Familiarity with her, the Rise of which Love must not be from her Beauty, Nobility, or because she contents and pleaseth her Husband; but especially because she is his Sister in the Profession of Christian Religion, and an Inheritor with him of the Kingdom of Heaven: because of her Graces, and Vertues, as Modesty, Chastity, Diligence, Patience, Temperance, Faithfulness, Secrecy, Obedience, &c. because she bears and brings him forth Children, the Heirs of his Name and Substance, and the Upholder of his Family; and because of the Union and Conjunction of Marriage. Love growing on Beauty, Riches, Lust, or any other slight Grounds, is but a Blaze, and soon vanisheth, but if grounded on these Considerations, and especially on this Union of Marriage, it is lasting and true: The want hereof is the Fountain of Strife, Quarelling, Debate; which converts the Paradise of Marriage, into an Hell.